Assvice abounds around here. While I've been on modified bed rest, I've been able to hide out from other people and it has been super nice. But when I have to go out to the Dr. or make my weekly or so trip to my office, I have to be around other people and I get accosted. If I had a dime for every time some one has told me I look like I am going to pop, have my baby any minute, explode, topple over, etc. I could quit work and maybe never have to go back. Yesterday, I actually had a lady yell across the post office parking lot that it wouldn't be long until I wouldn't be able to fit behind the wheel of my car. Do I know this person....of course not. I mean the audacity! I just stared at her in disbelief and then seriously considered waiting until she came back out and running her rude ass over. Yeah....I'm hormonal....so what.
Then I decided to go to Target to get some Halloween costumes for the wee ones and to soothe my wounds with a little clearance shopping. While there, I found these awesome, silky t-shirts and a v, v cute suit (all non-maternity mind you). So what that I am still pregnant and sporting a huge, ole' belly. My legs are the same size and so are my butt and my arms and all my other parts. So I decided to try the said t-shirts and suit on. T-shirts appeared as if they would work out fine post-belly. So did the suit jacket. The pants though were tight in the thighs and butt so I decided to go up one size. No big deal since pre-pregnancy I would normally have to try on two different sizes of the same pair of pants to get the one that fit the best. Anywhoo....I came out of the dressing room and handed the offending pants to one of the collection of dressing room attendants who asked "didn't work for you?" I said "no" and proceeded to go look for a larger size. As I was SLOWLY making my way, I heard the bitty say, "well what does she expect...look at her...she's huge and these are not maternity". Oh how I wanted to bitch slap her! Instead, I found my size 8 pants and went back to the dressing room. Tried them on, they fit and looked great in spite of the fact that they "are not maternity". Upon exiting the fitting room I told the bitty, "these worked just fine and it's so nice to be thin enough to try on non-maternity clothes even when I am pregnant". No more snide comments from the bitty!
Today at work, my assistant was discussing with me how things are going with the babies and pregnancy related issues. The subject of breastfeeding came up and she flat out told me that with twins, it would be impossible to do. That comment irritated my last frayed nerve. I wanted to tell her to eff off since she is such an expert neither having EVER HAD TWINS nor knowing any one who has twins. But I only told her that I was sure I would be able to do it and I was not going to stress about it. Of course, that is a total lie since I am not sure that I will be able to do so and I am starting to stress about it. You just cannot imagine the number of women who have flat out told me that bf'ing twins will be impossible or that they couldn't bf one so they will be shocked if I can bf two. I'm getting zero support on this issue with the exception of my Dr. and B and a few blogs I read that are written by moms of multiples.
As a person who tries and can usually find the silver lining and who doesn't believe in the concept of "cannot", all of the negativity that gets tossed my way when I venture out is starting to break me down and I'm about fed up. So the next time you see a pregnant woman, just keep your assvice and personal opinions to yourself because you might be talking to me. At this point, I might just snap and it would be very detrimental to your health.